How to reconnect with your goals and dreams – at any stage in life

How to reconnect with your goals and dreams - at any stage in life

This year, US sitcom Friends celebrated its 20th anniversary since first hitting our screens – in which time it has become one of the most popular shows ever and continues to air in countries across the world. 

Watching Joey, Ross, Monica, Phoebe, Rachel and Chandler navigate the complexities of modern inner-city life struck a chord with many viewers. 

Some people's hopes and dreams for the future may even have mirrored their favourite Friends characters onscreen, whether it's chasing a high-profile career, settling down and starting a family or achieving fame and fortune. 

Now, 20 years on from its first airing and a decade since the finale, have you had success with your aspirations? Or perhaps you need to take stock and reconnect with your life aims? 

Maybe you're lacking motivation and need to regain some of the passion you once had? In which case, this guide should provide a number of helpful tips to get you started. 

Make a list 

Okay, so you're life hasn't quite turned out how you expected, but with a little organisation and hard work there is still plenty of time to get back on track. 

One of the best places to begin is by making a list of all the pressing issues in your life, whether it's your finances, relationships or career progression (or lack thereof). 

Remember The One with the List? In this Friends episode, Ross draws up the pros and cons of his two current love interests – Rachel and Julie. While fleshing out a considerable number of Rachel's flaws, he also realises that Julie's biggest drawback is that "she's not Rachel". 

Writing down life issues helps you to see them in black and white, and is often a big step forward in finding the solutions to these problems. Ross's list ultimately ends up getting him in trouble after Rachel stumbles across it, but it still allows him to focus on what he truly wanted from his relationships. 

Career switch 

Having a job you love is among many people's top desires in life. Unfortunately, it can be quite easy to find yourself stuck in a rut, plying your trade in a profession that fails to inspire your passion. 

If this is the case, then a career change may be just what's needed to reinvigorate you and regain your motivation to pursue a dream career. While it's not easy to start over again in a new role, the rewards are often worth it over the long term. 

The One Where Rachel Goes Back to Work is a good example. Chandler, bored of his statistical analysis and data reconfiguration job (a position comically never remembered by the rest of his friends), decides to pursue a role in advertising. 

At first, the difficulties of starting on the bottom rung of the ladder are evident, but eventually Chandler uses his experience to his advantage by impressing the boss with a quirky slogan for a pair of training shoes. 

Even if you decide to stay in the same industry, making a job switch can be a difficult decision – but it's often a worthwhile one if you're unhappy in your current situation. 

Change bad habits 

Achieving your dreams often requires confidence, patience and hard work in equal measure. So now may be the time to kick some of the bad habits you've picked up over the years that may be holding you back. 

Whether it's smoking, alcohol or junk food, many vices are not only bad for your health and motivation, but they can be a significant drain on your finances. 

The new year is often the most popular time to make these life-changing improvements, although new year resolution success rates are disappointing. Earlier this year, the University of Scranton claimed only eight per cent of people manage to achieve their goal. 

However, with the right mindset and a little extra help, you can give yourself the best chance of coming out on top. For example, hypnosis has been proven to have positive results for quitting addictions. 

In fact, Chandler famously used a hypnosis tape to rid him of his smoking habit. Unfortunately, the tape encourages him to be a "strong, confident woman", creating some gender confusion for Chandler as the episode progresses. 

Instead, why not try psychic coaching? A psychic offers spiritual and emotional support using extra-sensory perception and tools such as tarot card readings or runes. 

This can help you to reconnect with your goals and objectives through day-to-day guidance, empathy and honing in on aspects of your past, present and future that may not be picked up by traditional life coaches. 

After all, if the goals you're aiming for aren't specifically tailored for you, then – as Joey would say – everything else is "just moo". 

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