Brotherly or sisterly love ‘kicks in at 25’

Brotherly or sisterly love 'kicks in at 25'

If you remember fighting like the proverbial cat and dog with your siblings as children but now get on with them significantly better, then you're certainly not in the minority.

According to a new poll of 2,000 over-30s by GettingPersonal.co.uk, 25 is the average age at which we start to feel love and affection for our brothers and sisters, with three-quarters having a better relationship now than they did as children.

Some 45 per cent admitted that they used to bicker constantly in the past, with nearly half revealing this was partly down to competition for their parents' attention.

Many revealed they actively enjoyed winding their siblings up and laughing at their misfortunes, even into their teenage years.

When asked what they thought the difference was as they got older, three in ten said relationships with brothers and sisters tended to evolve into something better when at least one of them left the family home – it suggests we don't appreciate what we've got until it has gone.

A further 16 per cent said they mellowed and began to appreciate their siblings once they had a family of their own, while 15 per cent said getting together for a moan about mum and dad is bringing them closer. We're not sure what that's doing for relationships elsewhere in the family, though.

One spokesperson for GettingPersonal.co.uk said: "It's great to have a sibling – but it can take a while to realise it."

However, some of the respondents to the poll admitted they still get annoyed with their siblings sometimes, especially when they bring up old arguments or don't stay in touch regularly enough.

The news comes after a previous poll suggested that we might have something else to be annoyed at our brothers and sisters over. Dating site Plenty of Fish discovered that first born children are more likely to find relationships than only children, middle ones or the very youngest.

If your siblings still get on your nerves, you could try contacting one of our psychic life coaches to help you rise above it and ensure you don't end up losing your temper the next time you see them – and if you're still holding a grudge about birth order, we might be able to help you forget it.

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